There were no cell phones. There was no internet. — Traveling cross-country on a Greyhound bus When I was 20, I traveled on a Greyhound bus from Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, to Key West, Florida. It took 6 days. This was the 90s. There were no cell phones. There was no internet. I cringe to think about what my poor parents must have gone through at…

I have so many questions. — What’s your favorite sex position? Did you begin the journey of your sexual experiences only knowing one sex position or did you experiment with more? I’m going to take a giant leap here and bet on the idea that a great majority of first-time sexual encounters — at least for…

Live and learn, right? — After my divorce and subsequent affair with a married man, I went through a strange period where I developed a crush on the kind of man I may not have ordinarily been attracted to — or at least I thought so. Most of the men I had previously been with…

Time tells. — There are many out there who believe people are capable of change. And then there are those who believe that a leopard can never change his or her spots. When I decided to meet my ex-husband for a casual breakfast after 5 years of estrangement, I was genuinely curious to…

Do we give up too easily or stay too long? — Have you ever heard someone say, “There are rough patches in every marriage”? You probably have. You may have even said it yourself at some point. But how different are those rough patches and what ultimately becomes irreconcilable in a marriage? Beyond the more obvious reasons for a marriage becoming…

Relationship cycles can be ambiguous. — As half of a couple myself, I understand how tiring it can be to feel as though you’re working incredibly hard to manage a stable, functioning, and healthy relationship with another person — while at the same time worrying if you’re up to par in the ‘still-madly-in-love’ department. Do we…

Our online society has warped our egos. — There is indeed a real addiction to the need for approval in the form of online likes, loves, and ego-gratifying responses that many people around the world are grappling with right now. I have fallen for it many times and I occasionally still do. It’s that feeling you get when…

Time to evaluate what could be holding you back in relationships. — 1. Expectations No matter how old you are, you have expectations. You may expect a swashbuckling knight in shining armor in romantic relationships because you read too many romance novels, or you may expect a friend who is loyal to absolute death because that’s how you are. These kinds of expectations are…

From experience. — I often wonder what advice I would give myself if I could go back in time and communicate to my 20-something self. After some thought, I came up with a few vital tips I’d give myself after experiencing some significant lessons in life, love, and relationships. Those Older Men You Dated Weren’t Necessarily Better When I was 20…