Live and learn, right? — After my divorce and subsequent affair with a married man, I went through a strange period where I developed a crush on the kind of man I may not have ordinarily been attracted to — or at least I thought so. Most of the men I had previously been with…

When you don’t like yourself you don’t take care of yourself. — I once chose to be celibate for two years. This wasn’t for religious reasons. This wasn’t some sacred vow. This was something I did to teach myself. I needed to teach myself that the choices I was making were not wise. That my decisions were not healthy. I needed to…

Accepting happiness and expecting happiness are two different things. — Do you ever have those moments where you get totally bogged down by the relationship upkeep required to maintain a functioning, healthy relationship? Do you ever just want to quit and run away? I do. I’m admitting it now. And I would consider myself to be a person who is…

Time tells. — There are many out there who believe people are capable of change. And then there are those who believe that a leopard can never change his or her spots. When I decided to meet my ex-husband for a casual breakfast after 5 years of estrangement, I was genuinely curious to…

This is part of the culture of not loving ourselves enough. — The things we moms say in front of our daughters can be careless. But it’s not always intentional. Most of the time, the words we utter in front of our daughters are a common, self-deprecating dialogue about ourselves. It’s a bad habit many of us have. Phrases float around the…

Lessons in libido-awareness. — Let’s visit this scenario. You and your partner haven’t had sex in a while. One or both of you are probably pretty sexually frustrated. You wonder when you’re EVER going to have sex again. But life keeps getting in the way. Responsibilities keep getting in the way. Kids keep getting…

But there’s more to the story. — I wrote two very personal articles about my experience with sexual harassment as a younger woman as well as my difficult journey navigating my way out of an abusive marriage. In these articles, I describe men as the culprits in these two separate situations — which is absolutely true. Nothing…

I’m going to talk about it. — I’m going to talk about it. Period sex. Icky? Gross? Not spoken about? The topic never invited to the party? Yes, that one. But there’s a lot more to period sex than you might think. My own personal experiences combined with the conversations I have had with my refreshingly candid…

And they can make all the difference. — I know it may be embarrassing for some people — the idea of bringing a sex toy into your sexual relationship with your partner. Some of you reading this may never have used a sex toy in your life. I get it. We all come from different places and backgrounds…