Sometimes what you don’t say makes everything worse. — My friend’s husband died. I haven’t known her long. She’s more of a blossoming friend, I guess you could say. But I really like her. It’s rare to find another woman in her 40s that you gravitate to so easily. So when you do, you want to savor it like…

The dirty work of consequences. — I’ve heard plenty of reasons as to why people cheat on their partners. ‘I’m not attracted to them anymore.’ ‘I’m staying for the kids.’ ‘I’m not in love with them anymore.’ ‘She got pregnant so I married her.’ ‘Our parents made us get married.’ ‘She won’t divorce me.’ ‘He won’t…

Hindsight is 20/20. — We all have to learn our lessons in life, love, sex, and dating. Unfortunately, none of us are born with the wisdom of knowing how to navigate most situations, feelings, or relationships. There are so many experiences I look back on where it would have been so much better to…

An in-flight mystery. — It wasn’t until halfway through the plane flight that I noticed the couple across the aisle from me. The woman was incredibly well put together with a glossiness about her hair, skin, and makeup that gave her an almost unearthly sheen. Not a single hair was out of place. The…

I’m here to make you feel better about that decision. — Your Mental Health Matters Even though many of us are raised to believe that the holidays are a time when familial obligations are a priority over everything else, putting your mental and emotional health at risk for the sake of “family” doesn’t have to be a thing. You don’t have to visit or host…

The idea of exclusivity within an affair may sound preposterous. — I’ve previously written about my experience being a mistress as a single woman. My married lover was insanely jealous even though he was committed to a marriage with someone else. I’ve also written about how, in my personal experience and opinion, serial cheaters are usually the ones who are prone…

I wasn’t raised to be verbal about sex. — Having sex is probably the most intimate thing we do as human beings. It’s also the weirdest. That’s why reading about sex and the sex lives of others can be so tantalizingly wicked. You can just read it. No one has to be there except for you. If you blush…

Here’s why. — The subject of porn and how it relates to people’s relationships has always been something that fascinates me — mainly because I have so many of my own personal feelings about pornography. I once wrote an article about porn that expresses why so many women are uncomfortable with their partners…

Learning to let love — be love. — Tales of the broken-hearted seem endless throughout history. Lamenting the loss of a lover is a deliciously tragic trademark in poetry, books, film, and all variations of artistic mediums. Many of us brood over how we shouldn’t have fallen in love with who we ultimately fell in love with or…