In a sea of couples — I realized something. — On a recent trip to Las Vegas, we stayed at a resort with multiple pools on a very hot weekend. Predictably, we spent the majority of our time at the pool. As I lay in my chair by the clear aqua water attempting to get a tan while trying not…

There were no cell phones. There was no internet. — Traveling cross-country on a Greyhound bus When I was 20, I traveled on a Greyhound bus from Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, to Key West, Florida. It took 6 days. This was the 90s. There were no cell phones. There was no internet. …

Time tells. — There are many out there who believe people are capable of change. And then there are those who believe that a leopard can never change his or her spots. When I decided to meet my ex-husband for a casual breakfast after 5 years of estrangement, I was genuinely curious to…

Are romance novels to blame? — Violence is generally not what we think of when women imagine a life of happily ever after with a partner. Then why do so many women — including me for a period of time — often become entangled with male partners who are violent? I’ve pondered this issue for a…

A random incident can connect two strangers in unexpected ways. — I knew the parking spot was a bit tight when I pulled in but I went ahead anyway because the entire parking lot was packed. I carefully maneuvered my way beside a bright, poppy red sports car, not thinking much of it. I sat in my car on my phone…

These uneventful moments have meaning. — Within the carefully cultivated walls of my marriage on any given day, there are many things left unsaid, undone, and blatantly disheveled. Beyond the inevitable sharp edges of irritation that come with maintaining a relationship, earning money, raising a family, and all of the banal chores in between that keep…

You’re divorced — not dead. — Most people don’t get married with the intention of getting divorced. But when a divorce does happen and all the paperwork is finalized, it’s time to start the process of moving on. So how does one move on? The answer is slowly, through a series of small steps that require…

And I know I’m not alone. — Hanging out on the couch with my husband and daughter the other day, I realized something. I realized that I had forgotten how to laugh. My husband and daughter were playing around, having fun, and giggling away. Yet there I was, worrying about the cup they might knock over during…

It seems like a lot of other people are filming themselves having sex. — I’ve never made a sex video. I’ve never really thought much about making one. The closest I’ve come to a sex video is some dirty, sexy polaroids that were taken during my first marriage. I’m wondering if I’ve missed out on something because it seems like a lot of other…